Friday 11th May
7-8pm: Corporate Worship
10pm: Communion - corporate or personal
Saturday 12th May
12pm-6am: Individual prayer slots
6am-9am: Neighbourhood prayer breakfast
9am-11am: Neighbourhood prayer walk
11am-1pm: Stations /corporate or personal – pdf ideas to do collectively or individually
1pm-3pm: Prayer around schools throughout NZ
3pm-5pm: Collective prayer meeting (city landmarks / churches)
5pm-6pm: Stations /corporate or personal – pdf ideas to do collectively or individually
6pm-7pm: Corporate Worship
ThemeS to pray foR
Friday 11th May
7pm: Regrets, mistakes
"I grew up faster than I should have. At 14 I wanted out, so that's exactly what I did. I was in and out of the streets and had a 'mess with me and I'll thump you' attitude.
"At the age of 19, I moved to the countryside trying to start fresh. Turns out it topped my life off. I fell pregnant and lost my son.
"Drugs and abuse was the normal thing. This is when I really fell deep. Drugs were my biggest friend; trying to kill myself became an everyday thing.
"I tried so hard but never got anywhere. My partner at the time had moved away with me to a little township where I thought things were going to change. They did in a way I will never forget. Early one morning I was sexually assaulted. At this point in time I was totally mind f*****, felt alone, had no hope at all.
"I wanted more than anything to just end my life!!! There was a voice in my head telling me to die, that I'm not worth it. I couldn't take anymore. I wanted out!"
Ewa-jane Ruldoph, The Herald | Breaking the Silence
“A glad heart makes a cheerful face, but by sorrow of
heart the spirit is crushed.”
If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.
8pm: Spiritual Wellbeing
"Among students who attend religious communities, those who report higher connection to their place of worship and strong spiritual beliefs reported fewer health risk behaviours and/or mental health concerns."
PYM | The impact of religion and spirituality on the risk behaviours of young people in Aotearoa, New Zealand
Beloved, I pray that all may go well with you and that you may be
in good health, as it goes well with your soul.
3 John 1:2
For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.
2 Timothy 1:7
"I guess growing up taking in language and messages not meant for a child affected me.
"Or it could've been the inappropriate touching?
"Or maybe the loneliness from constant chaos, the 18 schools, the emotional abandonment?
"Whatever it was, I started self-harming aged 12, turning to suicide attempts throughout my younger years, along with addiction, prostitution, abortion and mental illness."
Anita Mary, The Herald | Breaking the Silence
“For the Son of Man came to seek and to save the lost.”
“Suppose one of you has a hundred sheep and loses one of them. Doesn’t he leave the ninety-nine in the open country and go after the lost sheep until he finds it? And when he finds it, he joyfully puts it on his shoulders and goes home. Then he calls his friends and neighbours together and says, ‘Rejoice with me; I have found my lost sheep.’
"My thoughts, moods, drinking and behaviour spiralled out of control until I thought the only way out was to end my life which I attempted to do twice in one year. Every minute, hour, day, week, month and year was a battle but I learnt to put on a giant smile and a front which I called 'The Zach Show', always seen to be happy and laughing, which I became known for, until everything took a dark nosedive.
"On April 23, 2014, I became sick of the front and just wanted it to all be over for good. I felt so extremely stressed with financial problems, unhappy with work, my body and my life in general that I just couldn't take anymore and something I'd thought a lot about took hold. I woke up. It hadn't worked!"
Zach McGrath, The Herald | Break the Silence
Come to me, all of you who are tired from carrying heavy loads,
and I will give you rest.
Milly likes to paint, draw and write her frustration out in scrapbooks. Some of the pages are a black mess of ink, others are beautiful, insightful and hopeful.
On one page, she wrote: "I am building in a post-war city."
In early June, while sitting on her bed at home, Milly described why she wrote that; how she feels "completely desecrated, destroyed and torn down" - like a post-war city - but that as part of her recovery she is slowly learning how to rebuild.
"To rebuild myself to create something beautiful and make it worthwhile so it's not just fires and broken buildings, but it's meadows and thoughts and nice things."
She turned to the next page of her journal and read: "Something inside me needs to click and hopefully it will. I've been waiting awhile and have lost hope along the way. My body is broken and my feet are sore, but to keep trying is what I have to do.
Milly, The Herald | Break the Silence
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
Saturday 12th May:
Every 67 hours a young person in New Zealand kills themselves.
That's one every three days.
130 lives a year.
New Zealand has the highest rate of youth suicide in the developed world.
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.
You, dear children, are from God and have overcome them, because the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world.
1 John 4:4
1am: Self Harm
Almost half of our teenagers will self-harm before they leave high school.
Thousands of young people are treated in hospitals for self-injuries every year -
and the number is rising fast.
New Zealand's hidden epidemic of self-harm has been described by one principal as "the elephant in the room in secondary schools".
“Don’t you know that you yourselves are God’s temple and that
God’s Spirit dwells in your midst?”
1 Corinthians 3:16
2am: Scared Youth
"16-year-old girls shouldn't be stuck in a psych ward battling their minds every single day. I should be living my life, falling in love etc, but no. I'm stuck in this cycle of trying to end my life. Will I ever be normal?"
Hailey, The Herald | Break the Silence
Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken.
3am: Self Doubt
As a young survivor of two suicide attempts told the Herald,
"We've been taught that we aren't allowed to be sad, that we have more than the generations before us so there is apparently no need for us to feel down. Let's admit it, adults look at us teens and young adults as if we are useless if we don't have jobs or aren't studying for some sort of career."
“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you; I appointed you a prophet to the nations.”
Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity.
1 Timothy 4:12
Anxiety disorders are more common than depression and according to the Ministry of Health about one in four New Zealanders will experience some kind of anxiety disorder during their life time.
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
“For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of
love and of a sound mind.”
2 Timothy 1:7
"I grew up in a Christian home. At the age of 22, I fell pregnant. My dad was so disappointed in me that he didn't talk to me at the start of my pregnancy.
"I couldn't go to church for the first few months as I was frightened I would be judged by others.
"My mum was with me when I gave birth to my baby girl, but after she left I started having panic attacks. I felt really shaky and like my heart was going to jump out of my chest. I hated this feeling. My daughter went and stayed with my dad and step-mum as I wasn't coping.
"One morning I 'd had enough; I was going to try and take my life.
"I called my mental health support worker and told her I was going to commit suicide. She asked if she should call the cops or if I'd be okay until she arrived. I said I'd be okay until she got to me, but after hanging up the phone I attempted to take my life.
"I remember waking up and thinking my time wasn't up. God has a plan for me and it wasn't my time to go yet.
Elise McDonald, The Herald | Breaking the Silence
The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. The righteous person may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all.
So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
6am: Family violence
One in seven young people report being harmed on purpose by an adult at home.
75% of interpersonal offences by a family member are not reported to police.
23 adults and 9 children are killed every year as a result of family violence
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
7am: Bullying – cyber, physical, emotional
A 2015 survey found that 32% of students reported being bullied in the past six months
More than half of young people said they would NEVER confide in their parents after becoming a victim of cyber bullying.
“He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds.”
8am: Mental Health
About 12% of 15-24 year-old experience psychological distress
This is up about 10% on how thing were a decade ago
Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit who gives life has set you free from the law of sin and death.
The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord: and he delighteth in his way. Though he fall, he shall not be utterly cast down: for the Lord upholdeth him with his hand.
For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.
9am: Youth not having a voice
According to to the 2014 New Zealand General Social Survey:
28% of young people aged 15-24 feel alone a little of the time
13% feel lonely some of the time
4% feel lonely most or all of the time
"Our inner life can often be a complex mix of history, secrets, pain, and wishes. Part of being human is having to face the difficulties - of sometimes being lonely, bitter, hurt, empty; of feeling that we've failed, ourselves or someone who hoped for more from us; of feeling that we're not good enough, not bright enough, not talented enough, not ... enough.
"How we deal with these difficulties is ultimately for us to decide, but we know that in our teenage years, weighing up how to cope with emotional pain can often be exceptionally hard - not least because the adult world often declares that some things are inappropriate for young people to think about or talk about, even while young people are actively living through those inappropriate things."
Paul Green | Principal | Makoura College
“Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity.”
“Do not say, ‘I am only a youth’; for to all to whom I send you, you shall go, and whatever I command you, you shall speak.”
10am: Peer Pressure
When children start school, their parents begin to lose the influence they once had. By the teenage years, peers are the most influential group as teenagers navigate finding an identity and figuring out the roles that they play.
Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight.
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
"When people see the word 'depression', they freak out. It often screams 'damaged goods'. This could not be further from the truth. Being sad, angry, happy, confused, alone - together these feelings make us human. How could we ever expect to be balanced all the time in this crazy world?
"It is so important to remember that every single person has a different story, so think before you speak.
"You may never realise how fragile a person is until it is too late. It is often the people that portray themselves so richly as happy,
who are actually overwhelmed by depression."
Lucy Wymer, The Herald | Breaking the Silence
For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.
12pm: Self Image
"I was 15 when I started to question who I was.
"I am New Zealand-born, a half caste - which means I am of Scottish and Tongan descent. Because of my brown skin, people assumed I was Maori or not white at all. But then I would visit Tonga and I would get labelled as Palangi (white).
"Not only was there this battle of identity, but I was also faced with a teacher yelling at me at the age of 10 in front of my class, humiliating me with words of frustration, saying 'Are you stupid?' or 'Are you deaf and dumb?'
"I learnt that day that the power of life and death is in the tongue. That day my life was shaped and I lived out those words thinking I was stupid, deaf and dumb!
"Because I did not know my identity, I didn't know how much I was worth so I attempted suicide as I wanted to end the pain of feeling unloved, rejected and hurt. I am thankful it didn't work and two other attempts later were still unsuccessful."
Rebecca Faavago, The Herald | Breaking the Silence
So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he
created him; male and female he created them.
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
1pm: School Youth Workers
As of April 2018, there are 157 24-7YW youth workers in 69 schools throughout Aotearoa.
As iron sharpens iron,
so one person sharpens another.
"This year has been the toughest of my life so far.
"Never have I felt so alone and empty among countless loving family, friends and colleagues who I know care about me. Never have I felt so worthless and humiliated, so much that almost every day I wish I wasn't alive.
"The very first night I attempted to harm myself I felt so inadequate and worthless. The pain was too much and I just couldn't handle it anymore. I wanted to stop the thoughts and pain."
Olivia Tomuli, The Herald | Break the Silence
A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.
3pm: Sexual abuse
About one in ten young boys and one in five young girls report unwanted sexual touching or being forced to do sexual things.
About one in four women and one in twenty men have experienced one or more sexual offences in their lifetime.
"I read my Child Youth and Family file a few years ago and it states that I went from "bubbly and energetic" to "dull and lacking emotion."
"You see, at the age of 3 my innocence was taken away from me by the men in my life and I guess you could say that my life has been a process of trying to gain back that 'bubbly and energetic' girl that was once written about.
"I struggled a lot growing up with not ever feeling good enough and I began to develop the core belief that I was unloveable. This led to a long string of suicide attempts, with my first at age 12.
"However there is one attempt I remember very clearly. I woke up in the Intensive Care Unit in hospital after being put into a coma following a very serious attempt. It was at that moment that I realised just how close to death I was and that I had a choice now to live or die.
"I chose to live."
Jazz Thornton, The Herald | Break the Silence
The Lord works righteousness
and justice for all the oppressed.
You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives.
According to the Ministry of Health, just over half of young people aged 15-17 will have drunk alcohol within the last year as will four out of five young people aged 18-24.
About 8% of those aged 15-17 and 33% of those aged 18-24 are considered hazardous drinkers at high risk for future physical and mental health damage from their drinking.
The NZ Drug Foundation says that illicit drug use among teenagers is uncommon but it more likely to cause them harm. 13% of secondary students say they use cannabis but only 3% use it weekly.
“You say, “I am allowed to do anything”–but not everything is good for you. And even though “I am allowed to do anything,” I must not become a slave to anything.”
1 Corinthians 6:12
“No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man.
God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.”
“So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.”
5pm: Having a disability
About one in ten children aged 0-14 years have a disability with nearly half of those children having multiple disabilities.
About one in four people aged 15 years and older have a disability with about 40% of those people more than one disability.
For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.
Psalm 139: 13-14
6pm: Broken Families / Communities
At the 2013 census about 18% or nearly one in five families was a sole parent family.
Just over one third of marriages end in divorce according to Statistics NZ.
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted, and he delivers those whose spirit has been crushed. A righteous person will have many troubles, but the Lord will deliver him from them all.”
"During this time I also had a dear friend commit suicide at the age of 15. I was beating myself up for a very long time that I could have done something as I saw him the day before and woke to hear the heartbreaking news.
"I felt hopeless because of my thinking and always questioned if I was really loved.
"A day that changed my life was visiting Cathedral Cove with a friend and we were climbing these rocks. Long story short, we climbed so high up a cliff face and I tried to lift my leg up to an unreachable rock and fell backwards, down to the crashing waves. My friend yelled 'God help!' and as she said it, it was like a hand under my back lifted me up onto the very rock I tried to reach.
"I knew that day there is a God who loves me and saved me for a purpose and has given me a hope and a future.
"I still struggle at times, but I have tools and support to keep overcoming!
Rebecca Faavaoga, The Herald | Breaking the Silence
Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is,
there is freedom.
2 Corinthians 3:17
Do you not know?
Have you not heard?
The Lord is the everlasting God,
the Creator of the ends of the earth.
He will not grow tired or weary,
and his understanding no one can fathom.
29 He gives strength to the weary
and increases the power of the weak.
30 Even youths grow tired and weary,
and young men stumble and fall;
31 but those who hope in the Lord
will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint.